A common saying I have heard is that if someone shows you your five closest friends they can tell you what kind of person you are. In other words you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. I have seen this to be true in my own life and that of other people.
This makes me realize that I am not an independent being. Whatever I am and do is influenced by the people I surround myself with. Who you are today is the result of what you have learned and seen in other people.
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
You may have heard the quote, “Birds of a feather flock together.” When you think about your own life today, are you happy about where you are and where you are going? What you are today is the result of the choices you made yesterday and what you do today will determine who you become tomorrow.
The Bible does tell us about the importance of aligning ourselves with people that are upright and not with people that are out of alignment with the Word of God. A good example is that of King Jehoshaphat in 2 Chronicles 18. Jehoshaphat aligned himself Ahab, King of Israel, who had already been warned not to go to war by a prophet because God was not with him.
King Jehoshaphat near loses his life by going out to war with Ahab but God shows him mercy and spares his life. Associating with the wrong people will get you into trouble but on the other hand associating with the right people will attract good things.
This concept makes it clear that birds of the same feather flock together. If you want to be of a different feather find other birds with the feather that you desire.
“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” ~ Proverbs 13:20
Here are 3 elements of your being that you need to remember are affected one way or another by the people you hang around:
The thoughts you think depend on what you feed your mind. Miserable and negative people tend to listen to the media to determine what their life will be like. They are comfortable around similar people. Others watch and/or listen to media with explicit content and shapes who they become.
The converse is true. Positive and upbeat people tend to feed their mind with the Word of God and uplifting things. They are also comfortable around people with similar thoughts.
Be aware what you feed your mind because what you feed it determines what you eventually become.
Closely connected to your thoughts are your attitudes toward different aspects of life. Depending on how you are wired you may find yourself in a tough environment and see possibility or see only problems and impossibility. A good example is that of the spies that were sent to spy out the Promised Land.
Out of the twelve spies that were sent only Caleb and Joshua had a positive attitude and were confident that they would prosper because they knew where their help comes from. The other ten did not have the same outlook and only saw the obstacle and not the God of Israel.
Joshua spent most of his time learning from Moses which helped him to know God more intimately. The other Israelites murmured for the most part and did not know God that well as a result.
Ultimately your thoughts and attitudes affect your behavior. If you are constantly harboring negative thoughts and poor attitudes it will show in your speech and work. The more you fill your mind with positive thoughts and have the right attitudes it will be seen in the success you attract.
The unfortunate part is that most people may not realize that their close companions affect their lives and never go as far as they could. Assess who your closest companions are today and analyse whether or not you want to keep walking with them. If you have great companions that are good, stay close to them.
On the other hand if your close buddies are keeping you down then you will need to have the courage to let them go. Always remember that birds of a feather flock together.