“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol, to which you are going.” ~ Ecclesiastes 9:10
“If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building us.” ~ Jim Rohn
In the previous articles we looked at the goal setting process to give an understanding of how to successfully set and achieve goals. I trust that you found value from the message I shared. The steps I described are the how-tos for achieving goals. What I would like to share in the next articles is the mindset you need to have as you set your goals. I firmly believe that the how-tos for doing anything don’t really matter until you get your mind wired right. Let us look at the common pitfalls to avoid when pursuing our goals. Let’s go:.
Focussing on outcomes
This is a lesson I learned the hard way. First of all none of us have total control over what happens in the future. For example making money, losing weight, passing exams and going on holiday are all worthy goals. However, this thinking puts our focus in the wrong place. As stated earlier we have little control over our outcomes but we do have total control over our actions. Our actions determine outcomes. So, for example, instead of thinking about making money your focus should be, “How many prospects can I find to provide valuable service?” Hence focus on doing the right actions.
Aiming for Quantum Leap Changes
It’s normal to be excited when you start a new project or pursue a new goal. It’s also easy to want to tackle a lot of things all at once. I know I’ve attempted that several times and it doesn’t work. I think most of us have heard the statement, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” All great achievements are the result of our daily disciplines over a period of time. I wrote about this particular topic in greater detail here.
One of my favorite sports icons is Michael Jordan, widely regarded as the greatest basketball player of all time. His basketball career is enviable because of all his achievements, particularly at the peak of his career with the Chicago Bulls where he won six NBA Championships. If you study his career closely you will realize that he didn’t become a superstar overnight but it was a process over a number of years of practicing daily disciplines. This is what he once said about the game of basketball, “Be true to the game, because the game will be true to you. If you try to shortcut the game, then the game will shortcut you. If you put forth the effort, good things will be bestowed upon you. That’s truly about the game, and in some ways that’s about life too.”
Focussing on your weaknesses
What you focus on expands. When you focus on your weaknesses they become bigger than your strengths. This mindset may be due to setting other people’s expectations for you, for example, being required by your employer to do a job for which you’re not well suited. It is much easier and more fun to focus on your strengths. True fulfillment comes from doing things that resonate with your heart, the things that you are passionate about. Sometimes you need to make a conscious decision to give yourself permission to be who you really are at the core without being apologetic about it. Don’t waste your life by trying to please other people.
I would like to hear your feedback on these pitfalls as well as to learn from your experiences so please feel free to leave your comments below. If you found value in this share the love with others using the social media buttons. In the next articles we will look at more pitfalls that we should avoid as we set goals. Until then,
Be all you can be!